Do you want to know how to change your life?
You have to change your attitude. You have to change your words. I know that sounds simple. Perhaps you are rolling your eyes at me right now. But seriously – if you want to change your life, this is the first step.
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Here is an example from my own life. Once (not all that long ago), I had to decline an invitation for a girl’s night out. Geez – I wanted to go. I felt as though I had been stuck at home for so long. I hadn’t seen my friends in months. My friend asked why I couldn’t come. I said, “Oh, I have to be home with the baby. I don’t have anyone to watch him.” I said it with a hint of hostility in my voice.
The second after I said that, my little baby boy looked up at me with those big blue eyes. It hit me. I don’t have to be home with him. I get to be home with him. My attitude instantly changed. Do you know how many mothers wish they had more time to spend with their babies? I was one of those mothers not long ago.
Small Change, Huge Difference
We often say words like we are the victim of a horrible life. We say them with such negativity. This is how we become pessimistic. Pessimism kills productivity. Pessimism kills goals. Pessimism makes us miserable.
The words “get to” in place of “have to” shift our mind to optimistic thinking. The things we do each day are a privilege. We have been given a gift.
A shift in vocabulary may seem insignificant, but it has a MASSIVE impact on the way you think and your attitude.
The truth is that we will go to extraordinary efforts to validate our perceptions, even if they are completely incorrect. So if you say that your boss is an awful person, you will unconsciously look for ways to validate it. If you say you are stressed, you will look for ways to feel stressed.
Do you want to know how to change your life? Take a look at these examples to see the difference a few words can make in our mindset.
- “I’m so Busy” – This used to be a favorite of mine. I would say it almost like it was a badge of honor. Have you said it too? Have you considered that it could be your behavior that is making you feel so busy? Are you multitasking and driving your own inefficiencies? The next time you feel the urge to say “I’m so busy,” stop and think about what you are really doing. Are you trying to work on multiple things at one time? Try telling yourself “I’m not busy. I am focused on my current task.”
- “I don’t have time for that.” – Blaming a lack of time is pretty common, but the reality is that we all have the same amount of hours in a day. So you are really just saying “I have not chosen to give that task my time and attention.” So instead of saying you don’t have time, instead try “That is not a priority for me right now.” or “It is on my to-do list, but I am working on higher priority actions.”
How to Change your Life with the Words You Speak
I am not telling you that you will now instantly believe that every aspect of your life is great. By shifting the words we say to others and ourselves, we train our subconscious minds. Over time, being positive and grateful will begin to come naturally. We all have those little irritating things that we don’t enjoy. But when you take a look at your life from a different angle, it can change your whole perspective. Not only will you be more grateful, but you will also more productive. Your life will change. Your relationships will improve. You will be happier.
Never Underestimate the Power of Words
Words are the most powerful tools and weapon we own. Words can move us from tears to laugher and back again in only seconds. Words can create lifelong relationships and destroy them even quicker. Words can get you noticed or end up costing you opportunities in life.
Use this as an example. Let’s pretend I am asking two people about an upcoming project. The first replies “I’ll try to get it done on time.” The second replies “Consider it done. I’m on top of it.” If I was interviewing, which person would get the job? If I was looking at schools for my son, which person would I trust to teach him?
Words are so powerful. We all know that to be true. So it blows my mind that we are often so careless with what we say and how we say it. Everything that comes out of our mouths or into our thoughts should be guarded because what we think and say so often has an amazing ability to come to life.
I talk a lot about goals. Goals (in my opinion) are what make life worthwhile. If I were to tell you how to change your life, I would tell you to live a goal-oriented life. I would tell you how to set goals and how to crush them. But before I did any of that, I’d tell you to change your mindset. And your mindset begins and ends with the words that you speak to yourself and others.
I want to give you a little challenge. I want you to pay attention to the words you say to yourself and to others for an entire day. Are you saying things like “I have to” “I want” or “I’ll try?” If you are, I challenge you to replace them.
Here are some effective phrases that you should say and think if you want to know how to change your life… and if you want to get results and achieve your goals.
- I get to
- I can
- I will
- I choose to do this
- I am up for the challenge
- You can count on me
Everything that comes out of your mouth should be without doubt and without excuses. Speak with integrity. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Be grateful for what you have in your life.
Whatever you are facing in life, you can turn the tables by focusing on the positive. It is a small change that will undoubtedly put you moving in the right direction.
So you want to know how to change your life? Start with your words.
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